There is this culture in our world today where if we see someone start a new venture, or “suddenly becomes successful”, our first reaction isn’t to be supportive and offer our congratulations.
No, our first reaction is to be jealous (even though we’ll never admit it), find flaws in their path, and ridicule them for it. We feel as though it’s “our job” to warn them of any possible failures and inform them that they may not be going down the right road.
Like, I’m sorry, but when did we get it in our heads that we have the right to do this? Were we there when that friend or family member spent weeks, months, or even years praying about this opportunity? Did we witness those holy conversations, experience them seeking counsel, and walked through their struggles of whether or not to launch that business?
Friends, the reason why I bring this up is because I’ve seen it all too much in my own life. The dreaded pushback; the lack of support; the judgement in part from misunderstanding; the misinformed “friend” that thinks it’s her responsibility to send me a billion links to articles that aren’t from reputable sources, are filled with false “facts”, and were written about ten years ago by a mommy blogger with a big opinion and a hurt ego.
I’m not trying to call anyone out here, I promise. I’ve been reading Rachel Hollis’ book “Girl, Stop Apologizing” and it’s really got me thinking: instead of trying to push each other down because we believe it will somehow help us climb up another ladder, why don’t we dig deep into one another and make that (stupidly controversial) decision to support each other in our adventures?
We need to be brave about what we want to do in life. We only get one chance. That’s it! So why are we trying to live according to how other people expect us to show up? We weren’t created to please others. We were created to please the One who created us.
So this week friends, choose three friends to actively support on social media, via text, or by any other means! This may look like sharing a post they wrote about their new small business. This may look like purchasing something from their shop or direct-marketing job that they are super passionate about. It may even look like following up with them daily or weekly to see how they’re doing writing that book they’ve always dreamed about.
So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.Galatians 6:9 (NLT)
We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.Romans 5:3-4 (NLT)
By putting our best foot forward, taking a deep breath, and trusting that the Lord is going to provide (even if something goes wrong), we practice strength, endurance, and faith. And we can be sure that’s what God really wants us to do.